Updated: Aug 16, 2020
We all have that little voice inside our head - you know, the one that tells you not to drive 80 miles per hour in a 65, or the one telling you that it's totally okay to set aside studying the week before final exams and binge watch The Office for the tenth time. Don’t worry, we have all been there before. This voice is purely a subject of our inner consciousness which pilots our decision making, judgement, and emotions. Despite our surroundings, we are the ones in control of the angel and devil on our shoulders, every single second of every single day. Our inner voice is ultimately the one thing in our lives that we have the most control over, and yet can be so quick to change.
You will hear me say this often throughout my blogging journey, but I strongly urge you to be your own cheerleader. As cliche as it sounds, no one truly knows how you are feeling inside and your happiness stems from your inner voice. Even your parents, friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, kids, anyone... all of whom you may thrive off of and can be massively influenced by, I urge you (in the least selfish way possible) to keep yourself first. At the end of the day, in order to reciprocate the love felt by others, you need to feel loved by yourself. If you can tell where this is going you can see where your self-love starts… your inner voice! Learn to not just tolerate, but love yourself, and you will be surprised by the impact it has on the relationships around you.
So! The good day comes around, and you are on top of the world, thriving on the adrenaline rush of the feeling you conquer any little thing in your path. This is, until the very next day, when you are hit with a piece of bad news which instantaneously overshadows whatever happiness you were living in the day before, growing from the inside out. These bad days...the days that hurt, the days when you don't want to get out of bed, the days when you feel as if the whole world has turned on you, and you having nothing to do but curl up into a ball and wait until it's over... these days are the most important.
As I am sure you can relate, on those tough days, I always experience a significant amount of hurt and my inner voice is looming in the back of my head telling me to quit or to give up on one of my dreams. Every single one of us has experienced some sort of let down, heartbreak, failure, the list goes on. When you are hit with bad news or just plain and simple having a terrible day, you are left with two choices. You accept it. You can break down and curl away from whatever is causing hurt (in my case grabbing the nearest tub of ice cream) and let it fester inside. Or, you wrestle with your inner voice. You can turn the tables, take a step back, and recognize that you can get through this.
Life is truly full of ups and downs, and we all know, when those downs come they really do suck...like really, really suck. Don’t get me wrong - we all deserve to mourn and be upset for a period of time, and you must allow yourself to do so in order to heal. A little ice cream never hurt anybody in the healing process :) However, guess what! We are in control, girl. We control how we respond. We control how we handle our hardships. We decide whether or not it allows us to grow or if it allows us to break.
The reason I am diving into understanding bad days is because, and I am sure many of you have already figured it out, but there may be many of you who may feel lost. First of all, you are not alone. I was once told, that if all of the people in the world put their problems into a breadbasket, you would be pretty quick to take back the problems that you had before. You would be astounded if you sat down with five random strangers in a room and shared stories, just how many of those you may have in common.
I am telling you now, honey, be the queen of those bad days! Use your inner voice to embrace them, and conquer them. For every negative experience I have had in my life, I have taken a step back, taken the breath I needed, and put into perspective the situation at hand. Learn to be quick to realize what getting fed up and dwelling on something will really do to benefit you. Why sit there and let the pain inevitably take you over? By confronting whatever it may be and use your inner voice to get out of bed, embrace it, learn, grow, and love yourself for it.
I can't be the one to convince you of just how much fight and ferocity you have inside, but I can tell you that you have the power to take back control of your inner voice and take advantage of every bad day, and every good one. It takes a little fight, it takes a little courage, but stay true to your inner voice, and listen to yourself. You can win any battle you are up against. Be your own cheerleader and win control of your inner voice.